So how is life being a mother of two boys? So how are you coping? Do you cry and laugh at the same time?
Yes it is Sweet & Chaotic. Let's be real. Being a mother is not mostly paradise. There are times you would want to scream and just be invisible for a couple minutes. There would be moments that being lost in reverie would be a luxury.
So yes, accepting(hand on your heart, eyes closed and deep breath) the responsibility of being a mother is nerve racking, mind boggling & physically draining. And no matter how prepared you are, truth is you never will be.
Then you come across images of postpartum moms in the social media or glossy magazines, neatly dressed, gorgeous locks, back to pre-pregnancy weight and plumped pinkish skin, a rush of panic runs down our spine and we then ask ourselves how unfair life can be?
So you know my fellow mother, if you are reading this, you are not alone. You are normal. It's ok to scream and cry as long as you don't stay in the situation too long.
One very important lesson I learned as a young mother of two is never chase perfection. When I had my first born, I wanted everything perfect, spic and span but believe me, if not for my faith, first in God, and 2nd in myself, I would have lost my senses.
To execute our roles as mothers we must take care of ourselves too, and on it's truest sense, we need to breathe that fresh air to give ourself a balance of everything. Our mental health is very vital so don't ever fall into the pit of the perfection trap. When something goes wrong, trust your instincts. It's a God given gift, unlimited 24/7. Use it as much as you can, it's for free. Remember that, if it is from God, trust that it is mistake-proof.
So if sometimes you feel ugly, incompetent or imperfect, always keep this in mind: your children will always see you beautiful, Because you taught them to see things beautifully. And it is your imperfections that make them love you. You will always be their first love. You see, despite the chaotic and sweet contradiction of motherhood, love will always balance the equation.
So Mom, you are doing well, in your own pace and in your own imperfect way.
Cheer up! Smile and pray.